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If you look up “self-sabotage” in the dictionary … is your picture there?

Have you been disappointed in love so many times that you feel like the poster child for Hooked on Losers Anonymous?

Stop! This train is going nowhere fast.

We all sabotage ourselves when it comes to love. Even I do, and I know what tricks my saboteur uses. Even though I know that I know that I can attract Larry’s highest and best self like magic when I want to, I still choose to close myself off to him when I feel hurt. 

My personal challenge is to keep a foot in the door of my heart Runedate Dating site so that I never go back to the isolation that was comfortable for me for so many years. I continue to be my own best client and use my own tools to keep my love vibe high and humming!

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How do you know if your saboteur is wreaking havoc in your soul-mate attraction plan? Here are five sure signs that self-sabotage is flying under the radar of your love life.

1. Super High Achievement and Success in Business, Career, and Philanthropy

Highly successful women are goal-focused go-getters on  Runedate Dating site. If anything, the lack of love has fed their highly charged passion for success. These women have zero time to focus on love and their careers fill in the gaps. Time has slipped by for these women and many are dismayed to find themselves still single in their forties.

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2. Passionate Relationships with Animals

What, you say? How could my love for my horse, dog, parakeet, or cat be in the way of love? Animals are one of the sweet treasures of life and my own personal comfort animals (thank you Boston Legal for this great term). Jade and Bunny are a blessing to me, BUT, and this is a big but … if you aren’t careful, you can build a soul-mate relationship with your four-legged friend that steals your time from finding true love.

3. Thinking You Need to Change Something Before You Find Love

Do you think you need to lose weight, get out of debt, move to a new city, or find a new job before the “timing is right” for manifesting your soul mate? This is an old saboteur trick and works like a charm on Runedate Dating site. You see, there will always be some hurdle to overcome before you “qualify” in your own eyes to prioritize a soul-mate attraction plan.

4. Setting Frivolous Deal Breakers in Your Soul-Mate Search

Now, violence of any kind, alcoholism, drug addiction, all are deal breakers we can all agree on, but, and this is almost as big of a but as the last one … I hear the most self-defeating list of deal breakers from my clients that you can imagine. There are some great men out there, kind, gentle, giving men who are aching to pour their love into a woman’s heart. Many lonely women are not even looking in their direction because of self-defeating deal breakers they have set their hearts on. Some include height (vertically challenged), hair (follicly challenged), and athleticism. Runedate Dating site Believe it or not, even vegetarianism, smoking, drinking, and sleep patterns can all dictate a deal breaker mentality that may not be serving you. Something to think about …

5. Constant Inner Chatter That It Could Be Too Late and/or That There Is Nobody Out There for You

The mind is certainly the saboteur’s playground. You may have a regret or two, you may wish that you could reconnect to a lost love … welcome to the club. There were good things in even the rockiest of relationships and these sparkling spots can blind you to the fact that there was a very good reason that relationship ended. If you are passionate and committed to find a partner and you will not stop until you find him, you can overcome any obstacle. Learning to control your thoughts and build confidence in your adorable self instead of constantly thinking about your singleness or your past is the goal.

PS, One last form of self-sabotage that is common among all of the four saboteur styles? It is called the “I Already Know All That Syndrome.” If you feel yourself saying these words, here is a thought for you … “What would I have to get from this call to make it worth an hour of my time.” Your saboteur will love this question.